Couples who do things together, stay together! It is important to have shared goals. Although you may not do absolutely everything together, as long as your main and most important goals match, then you will be working together and loving your time together.
I saw this lovely example recently at a pottery workshop. A couple who had met with their shared love of pottery, decided to make these bowls together for their wedding. The idea is that these bowls will be used to decorate the table and then each guest can take them away as a memento of their shared joy in this marriage. I am sure this marriage is made to last! Congratulations to this happy and wonderful couple who incidentally I don’t know and have never met but already I feel the joy of their wedding and their lives.
There seem to be so many things I could do- my brain, time and creativity seem to be stretched to accommodate everyone and everything. I love doing lots but that is not necessarily productive or good- especially for my health and sanity. So when I was feeling very tired and desperate from ‘constant doing’, I found some great advice which I would like to share.
This comes from the philosophy teacher of Tal Ben-Shahar, who has written a bestseller called ‘Happier’ and runs an eponymous course at Harvard University. This teacher, Ohad Ramin, told him when he was a young graduate, “Life is short. In choosing a path make sure you first identify those things that you can do. Out of those, select the ones that you want to do. Then, reduce your choice further by zooming on what you really want to do. Finally select those things that you really, really want to do– and do them!”
This rang a bell for me when I started the journey of following my heart. I really had to edit out many things in order to concentrate on things that mattered to me and really, really want to do. In many ways, the way we mature in our lives consist of this constant editing, following our hearts and becoming happier as a result.