How many times have we waited for thing to change? For other people to respect or love us? For a marriage proposal or commitment even? I have come to the conclusion that if things are right, they happen anyway. Men in particular, change immediately when they meet the right person- they may get a job, change a job, become domesticated, want to marry, have children, whatever, etc. All that happens because they want to do it- not because you want them to do it! I had a relationship with someone- I even hate to call it a relationship now. This man was lazy, unreliable and all over the place. On the other hand, I am organised and very nurturing kind of person- and I thought that by being with me, he would naturally change. No, he did not and I wasted a long time waiting for him to change when I could have gone and found someone else. And to tell the truth, when we first met and I experienced a very unpleasant side of him and challenged him, he did say,”I am never going to change!” Yes, he was right- and how foolish I was! We live and learn as they say.